Language is really fun to play with. Today I had an insight at work. I got a bit frustrated about a software tool I’m working with and said “This software is annoying me”. As soon as I said it I realized it wasn’t true.
- I wasn’t really annoyed (really!) I had just said it, because that’s what we tend to say when things don’t work the way we expect them to
- No software in the world can’t annoy me. I can only have thoughts that cause annoyed feelings. But it’s up to me if I hold on the thoughts or just let them come and go.
So – I corrected myself and said: “Actually – it’s not annoying me. It’s just not doing what I want.” Wow – that was a huge relief and shift. The energy behind that was totally different. And it made me stay concentrated. I just looked again, found the problem, and solved it. If I had stayed with the “annoyed” that wouldn’t have been possible so smoothly. I would have wasted a lot of energy complaining about the stupid tool. Which wouldn’t have changed the situation at all.